Comments on: Guest Post: Mommy, What Happens When You Die? /mommy-what-happens-when-you-die/ For moms who aren't ready to trade sushi for hot dogs. Wed, 27 Jul 2011 01:22:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Gina Osher /mommy-what-happens-when-you-die/#comment-1830 Gina Osher Mon, 16 May 2011 16:39:00 +0000 /?p=2078#comment-1830 Thank you so much, Wendy. I don't think I posted that much on Facebook & Twitter as it was quite personal - so please don't feel bad! Of course, not too personal to blog about. LOL! Thank you so much for your kind words & thank you for telling me I handled it well....thank goodness it all seemed to work out well. So sorry to hear about your own husband's health scare - it really does shake things up, doesn't it? Here's to good health for us all! Be well, Gina Thank you so much, Wendy. I don’t think I posted that much on Facebook & Twitter as it was quite personal – so please don’t feel bad! Of course, not too personal to blog about. LOL! Thank you so much for your kind words & thank you for telling me I handled it well….thank goodness it all seemed to work out well.

So sorry to hear about your own husband’s health scare – it really does shake things up, doesn’t it? Here’s to good health for us all!
Be well,
Gina

]]> By: Wendy Young, LMSW, BCD /mommy-what-happens-when-you-die/#comment-1829 Wendy Young, LMSW, BCD Mon, 16 May 2011 04:39:04 +0000 /?p=2078#comment-1829 Gina, Oh my gosh! Here I have been interacting with you on facebook and twitter and I had absolutely NO IDEA that this had happened in your life in December. I'm so sorry you all had to go through this. We dealt with a health scare with my hubby when my kids were little and I recall those evenings with the two youngest in puddles on my lap asking, "When is Daddy coming home?" "Is Daddy coming home?", "What if Daddy doesn't get better?", "Can Daddy die?", etc. You answered your kids perfectly and with so much love and compassion! They are lucky to have you. I hope all is going well right now and am wishing your hubby continued health! All the best, Wendy @Kidlutions Gina,

Oh my gosh! Here I have been interacting with you on facebook and twitter and I had absolutely NO IDEA that this had happened in your life in December. I’m so sorry you all had to go through this.

We dealt with a health scare with my hubby when my kids were little and I recall those evenings with the two youngest in puddles on my lap asking, “When is Daddy coming home?” “Is Daddy coming home?”, “What if Daddy doesn’t get better?”, “Can Daddy die?”, etc.

You answered your kids perfectly and with so much love and compassion! They are lucky to have you. I hope all is going well right now and am wishing your hubby continued health!

All the best,
Wendy @Kidlutions

]]> By: Gina Osher /mommy-what-happens-when-you-die/#comment-1827 Gina Osher Sat, 14 May 2011 14:23:26 +0000 /?p=2078#comment-1827 Thank you all for your wonderful notes. I am so honored that you were touched by this post. Erin, I do find just being honest (even if what you say is that you aren't sure of the answer) is the best way to handle any questions from kids. This morning my 4-year old daughter asked "where do you get babies". Ack! That's one I'm not prepared for! LOL! Word of Mouth, I hope your dad is OK! Even at 65 it is scary when someone has to deal with something like heart surgery! And that's a hard thing to handle when your partner's beliefs are so different. I"m with you - I feel as though there HAS to be a purpose! Galit, thank you so much for your lovely note. I appreciate the support! Kelly, I am so glad you were able to move past your death "obsession". That does sound like an exhausting way to live. And I"m glad my most touched you. :) Thank you all for the beautiful notes! And thank you, Holly, for letting me post here. xo Gina Thank you all for your wonderful notes. I am so honored that you were touched by this post.

Erin, I do find just being honest (even if what you say is that you aren’t sure of the answer) is the best way to handle any questions from kids. This morning my 4-year old daughter asked “where do you get babies”. Ack! That’s one I’m not prepared for! LOL!

Word of Mouth, I hope your dad is OK! Even at 65 it is scary when someone has to deal with something like heart surgery! And that’s a hard thing to handle when your partner’s beliefs are so different. I”m with you – I feel as though there HAS to be a purpose!

Galit, thank you so much for your lovely note. I appreciate the support!

Kelly, I am so glad you were able to move past your death “obsession”. That does sound like an exhausting way to live. And I”m glad my most touched you. :)

Thank you all for the beautiful notes! And thank you, Holly, for letting me post here.
xo
Gina

]]> By: Kelley /mommy-what-happens-when-you-die/#comment-1816 Kelley Wed, 11 May 2011 19:10:39 +0000 /?p=2078#comment-1816 That was beautiful! I love how you said that you don't want to waste the limited number of days we may have on this earth in fear. That is not how we are supposed to live. I'm going to go this day forward and strive not to live in fear. When I was younger, I would pray for every single person I knew each and every night. I'd pray that they wouldn't die. I was obsessed. I was also obsessed with suffering in a fire and would sleep with a bag of all of my valuables (that I could fit in the bag, of course), so that if I had to run out, I'd have all of my stuff with me. Truly, being afraid is no fun. Thanks for this post! That was beautiful! I love how you said that you don’t want to waste the limited number of days we may have on this earth in fear. That is not how we are supposed to live. I’m going to go this day forward and strive not to live in fear. When I was younger, I would pray for every single person I knew each and every night. I’d pray that they wouldn’t die. I was obsessed. I was also obsessed with suffering in a fire and would sleep with a bag of all of my valuables (that I could fit in the bag, of course), so that if I had to run out, I’d have all of my stuff with me. Truly, being afraid is no fun. Thanks for this post!

]]> By: Galit Breen /mommy-what-happens-when-you-die/#comment-1815 Galit Breen Wed, 11 May 2011 18:50:31 +0000 /?p=2078#comment-1815 This is gorgeous, thoughtful, and thought provoking. I appreciate the honesty and discretion that you use when speaking with your children, when you're teaching them. Thank you so very much for sharing this! This is gorgeous, thoughtful, and thought provoking.

I appreciate the honesty and discretion that you use when speaking with your children, when you’re teaching them.

Thank you so very much for sharing this!

]]> By: By Word of Mouth Musings /mommy-what-happens-when-you-die/#comment-1814 By Word of Mouth Musings Wed, 11 May 2011 18:47:27 +0000 /?p=2078#comment-1814 Great post and actually my Dad had that surgery last week - but he is 65! But yes, the questions and here I find it difficult because my husband is an atheist of the when you are gone, you are gone ... I am not. I have to believe that there is a purpose to all of this and how could I raise these wonderful kids and then there be - nothing? ACK - men ;) Great post and actually my Dad had that surgery last week – but he is 65!
But yes, the questions and here I find it difficult because my husband is an atheist of the when you are gone, you are gone … I am not.
I have to believe that there is a purpose to all of this and how could I raise these wonderful kids and then there be – nothing?
ACK – men ;)

]]> By: Erin@MommyontheSpot /mommy-what-happens-when-you-die/#comment-1810 Erin@MommyontheSpot Wed, 11 May 2011 02:02:58 +0000 /?p=2078#comment-1810 Awesome post! My five year old is starting to ask questions like this, and I am trying to deal with it the same way you are. It's so tricky . . . Awesome post! My five year old is starting to ask questions like this, and I am trying to deal with it the same way you are. It’s so tricky . . .

]]> By: Gina Osher /mommy-what-happens-when-you-die/#comment-1806 Gina Osher Tue, 10 May 2011 23:10:05 +0000 /?p=2078#comment-1806 Thank you so much for your comments, everyone. I really appreciate the feedback. It was a very tough time and thankfully we are all OK. I agree with you, rockstarmomlv, "little sips" of information is the best way to go! I have noticed that when something like this happens it puts life into perspective, but the hard part is keeping that perspective as time goes by! Thank you so much for your comments, everyone. I really appreciate the feedback. It was a very tough time and thankfully we are all OK. I agree with you, rockstarmomlv, “little sips” of information is the best way to go! I have noticed that when something like this happens it puts life into perspective, but the hard part is keeping that perspective as time goes by!

]]> By: rockstarmomlv /mommy-what-happens-when-you-die/#comment-1805 rockstarmomlv Tue, 10 May 2011 06:24:49 +0000 /?p=2078#comment-1805 Thanks for sharing. This is such a difficult topic to discuss with your children, especially when it does hit close to home. I think you're right though, honesty, as much as we can give them, is the best policy. As they get older, they are more mentally mature and prepared to deal with the reality and the heaviness of death. Little sips... Thanks for sharing. This is such a difficult topic to discuss with your children, especially when it does hit close to home. I think you’re right though, honesty, as much as we can give them, is the best policy. As they get older, they are more mentally mature and prepared to deal with the reality and the heaviness of death. Little sips…

]]> By: Christina Simon /mommy-what-happens-when-you-die/#comment-1803 Christina Simon Tue, 10 May 2011 03:09:21 +0000 /?p=2078#comment-1803 Wonderful piece. Such great news that your husband is ok and you're able to talk to your children and reassure them. Great advice for other parents, too. Wonderful piece. Such great news that your husband is ok and you’re able to talk to your children and reassure them. Great advice for other parents, too.

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