Comments on: Do Women Want to be Submissives? A Look at Fifty Shades of Grey

By: Michelle

Michelle — Thu, 09 Jan 2014 00:24:00 +0000

I’m on the third book as well. I am so in love with the series…..

I can understand how many people might look at this as an “unhealthy relationship” but when it’s gone into willingly, it’s not abusive. At least IMO.

How great would it be if all “controlling/abusive/ahole” men would give you such an amazing heads up?!

I’m a very independent, strong, headstrong woman by day… but behind closed doors… I like to submit. I like being “kept in check”. I like answering with “yes sir” and being punished if I do not.

I think these books are great, especially as an introductory to the lifestyle. I wasn’t going to read them, but I’m oh so glad I did.

By: elle

elle — Wed, 06 Feb 2013 07:12:47 +0000

hey lily,
thank you for your comment! i have a few questions about a d/s relationship, as like you, none of the men i’ve been with can keep up with me and bore me sexually after a few months. i have been wondering, for a while, about entering in a d/s relationship and wanted to know if i could ask you some questions

By: CultureMom

CultureMom — Wed, 30 May 2012 04:07:28 +0000

I really appreciate your point of view and thanks for visiting my site.

By: Lily

Lily — Sun, 13 May 2012 19:08:31 +0000

Shaking my head because you don’t get it. And that’s okay. I’ve been in a D/s relationship with a Dominant who is very Christian Grey-like (with somewhat less money, however) for 12 years. In my day job, I am an executive at a Fortune 500 company, with all of the responsibility that entails. But when I am with him, I am his submissive, and that is the most erotic and freeing thing imaginable. Like any good Dominant, he took a long time getting to know me as a person and a woman before our relationship became sexual at all. He devotes a great deal of time and thought to our relationship, to taking care of my needs. I trust, respect, and love this man with my entire being. Weak men nauseate me. I have been in “vanilla” relationships with men who were too weak to handle me, and they shut down my libido and left me frustrated and unfulfilled. I am a very strong woman in many ways, highly educated and intelligent and successful, and I have always had a difficult time finding a man who could keep up with me. In my Dominant, I FINALLY found a man who was not only not intimidated by me, but able to handle me in every way. Reading these books (and yes, he commanded me to) only made me appreciate what I have with him all the more, particularly as I see so many women obviously hungering for what we have and not finding it.

Don’t knock it until you’ve tried it…with an experienced Dominant, of course. That’s all I’m saying.

By: Tracy Beckerman

Tracy Beckerman — Fri, 27 Apr 2012 12:14:55 +0000

Holly,
I am midway through the first book and actually chose to download it to the kindle on my computer for the same reason you hid it on the subway. It is something of a guilty pleasure and I also have mixed feelings about the whole thing. I agree with just about everything you said and I get the sense that I will definitely not read the next two and may not even finish the first. I’m with you… there are so many wonderful books to read with great writing and strong female characters that I don’t feel the need to indulge in this… even for some momentary titilation. I have a husband for that!

By: Galit Breen

Galit Breen — Fri, 27 Apr 2012 01:39:57 +0000

Holly! This book is so the talk of EVERYONE I know!

I’ll admit I’m curious, but oh my!

(I’ll keep you posted!)

By: Aisha G of HartlynKids

Aisha G of HartlynKids — Thu, 26 Apr 2012 15:11:03 +0000

I’m actually on the third book in this series. While some of the sex scenes are a bit much for me and also too formula and repetitive – there is also an underlying plot of crime, mystery and dare I say – romance. I’m not trying to change your mind but rather to give your readers another perspective from another reader.

I’ve actually found that I’m skimming some of the sex scenes and looking forward to reading more of the plot but also “suggesting” others to my husband. Sex is a HUGE part of the plot but not the only part. Much of the romance makes me smile.

By: Estelle Sobel Erasmus

Estelle Sobel Erasmus — Thu, 26 Apr 2012 12:31:38 +0000

Thanks Holly! I was planning to read the book but now not so much